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Saving Civility: 52 Ways to tame rude, crude and attitude for a polite planet. Skylight Paths, Woodstock, VT. Kennedy, Sheila Suess. Amherst, NY: Prometheus Books. Are you an interpreter? Yes No. Conduct Mindfulness. By: Carolyn Ball. Sign In or Join Now to save your favorite content. The Fundamentals Beyond a code of conduct, understanding the importance and value of a code of decency has the potential to lead us to a more civil approach to life.

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Some information may no longer be current. McGill University scholar John A. Hall says civility is the glue that holds society together. There is more to civility than simply saying hi to your neighbour or declining to discuss religion at a dinner party.

Hall explains, civility is the glue that holds society together. A historical sociologist, Prof. Hall argues in his new book, The Importance of Being Civil: The Struggle for Political Decency, that civility goes well beyond good manners; it can save lives.

In a conversation held just after his return this week from Turkey, currently the scene of much civil discord, he describes what makes civility so vital — and why governments ignore it at their peril. Civility is that moment when two groups who have been fighting for a very long time reach a stalemate, so they decide to agree to stop trying to kill each other and live with each other.

To allow a certain measurement of disagreement. More than anything, it's the idea of toleration. It's totally important for government to behave in a civil way. If the state is very harsh to a society, it breeds a reaction. And it was very noticeable in Turkey, and the sudden move on the part of [Prime Minister Recep Tayyip] Erdogan to water-cannon and tear-gas protesters produced a very, very strong reaction.

Talking is crucial because, if you talk, you make people more reasonable. Civility on the part of government is absolutely vital. Boomers were the first generation to be fed oversize portions of self-esteem and self-entitlement. But our studies show that in their teens boomers still had enough training from their parents to care what neighbors or their community thought of them.

As they aged that started to change over the next 20 years. To survive, a society needs an amount of goodwill—people willing to treat others with respect and to give of themselves to the community. Civility is the lifeblood of a society.

And we move naturally from being self-absorbed and self-interested to being rude and uncivil? The Internet has depersonalized our relationships. We e-mail, instant-message and make anonymous comments online.

We live in a time when anyone can say anything about anybody. The shrillest voices are the ones that get the most attention. Pundits screaming at one another—this is part of our everyday life. We see this as normal and acceptable. A number of studies prove we are at an all-time low when it comes to being civil, to caring about what others think of our actions. They are detached, self-interested. In fact, civility has become a real issue in America. Presidents Bill Clinton and George W.

Bush have spoken about the importance of restoring civility, as has President Obama. And yet bipartisan conflict is part of democracy. And you must argue civilly. Wilson did not attack the presidential plan, he attacked the president. Today some politicians use nothing but tactics of attack or obstruction. Too often we have rigid adherence to a party line. Common sense, compromise and goodwill are vanishing.

Civility and the survival of society as we know it. History is rife with examples of deep thinkers who understood the critical role civility plays in a well-ordered society. The framers of the U. Constitution assumed that their fellow citizens' pursuit of personal interest would be bound by self-regulation based on religious belief and ethical principles.

John Adams saw with particular clarity that without allegiance to those principles, no government could survive. Our constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other. In Britain, judge and mathematician John Fletcher Moulton observed that between the realm of the things we do with unrestricted freedom and those we do because they are prescribed by the law, there exists a middle ground, the domain of Obedience to the Unenforceable.

Here our actions are influenced by our sense of what is the proper, responsible and decent thing to do. They fall, that is, under the rule of an unofficial code of duty to goodness. Coaching a Little League team is an example. Participating in a neighborhood watch program is another. Civility and good manners belong to the realm of the unenforceable. For Lord Moulton, "the real greatness of a nation, its true civilization, is measured by the extent of this land of obedience to the unenforceable.

What Adams and Moulton recognized is that for any society to survive and thrive, the total amount of goodness circulating at any given time needs to remain above a certain level. We are the world's trustees - not just of the air we breathe and the water we drink, but of one another's quality of life, contentment and happiness.

Humans are the most social of all earth's creatures. We constantly connect and relate. If life is a relational experience, then its quality is, to a considerable extent, measured against the quality of our relationships. Receiving a good training in civility allows us to acquire an effective code of conduct for these relationships that will serve us well throughout life.

Thanks to these skills, we behave in ways that make others want to keep us around them. We thus find ourselves embedded in circles of connection and care, such as family and friends.